InsaneJournal

Current mood:	annoyed
Entry tags:	bbc, sex

Ramble
This has been on my mind since last night, and I'm just going to ramble about it a bit. (waring, contains discussion of sex)

Yesterday evening on BBC3 there was a documentary about a woman who wanted to discover if she could have an emotional attachment to women, aka if she could be a lesbian. This is all well and good, but her method irked me a bit. She was going to stay with three lesbian women, who she called 'the lesbians'. Now, lass, one's sexual orientation isn't one's entire personality, as you seem to think. She treated the lesbian community like one would the jungle, dangerous and full of a different kind of people, nearly another race entirely.

Next, she went out with the lesbians to a women-only club. Goal was to be chatted up by someone. I have never seen someone so uncomfortable. She was staring at the kissing couples like she'd never seen it before and was just all in all such a wallflower that I wasn't surprised at all when no-one hit on her. This, of course, was not what she had expected. Wake up, my girl. People go clubbing to pick up people and to have fun. Picking up people means testing out the offers before you take them home, which also happens in straight-only clubs.

The following day she went to a workshop for lesbians, to learn better sexual skills. At this time it was established that she had indeed had sex with a woman and that she new she could connect on a sexual level. Now she wanted the emotional connection, or at least know if she was capable of having one with a woman.

Anyway, the workshop. Here she had to touch a fake vagina, which she reacted to as if she'd never seen one before. To make a long story short, she was being chatted up, and quite agressively so, by one of the partakers in the workshop. This she rebuffed by telling her: 'I'm not a lesbian' (ehm, lesbian sex workshop, anyone?). The woman kept coming on to her, which she disliked but did nothing to stop. (Saying 'no' works on women as well, lass.)
Her reaction afterward to the whole experience was that '[she] didn't expect women to be so sexually agressive.' Well, I'm sorry, but not everyone waits until someone comes to talk to them, neither straight nor gay women.

That was when I turned of the telly, because this kind of stupidity annoys me to no end. The whole 'can have sex with women', 'want to have sex with women', 'can't have sex with women', 'want emotional involvement' stuff is just odd. She doesn't know what she wants. And why would being in love with a woman, or 'emotionally involved' be any different than being in love with a man? Yes, the bits are different, but doesn't being in love also works on some intellectual level? You have to connect with someone, be they male or female, to be emotionally involved with them. And to make such a connection you have to stop treating them like some different species that are to be observed!</cut>

Okay, that was it. Just had to get that of my chest.